So I guess a good place to start is hen do’s! (Yes I have
had multiple, I am needy.) My first one was my work one, and it certainly
kicked them off with a bang! The lovely ladies I was celebrating with had
planned a Disney theme, so we were pre-drinking to Pocahontas (drink every time
someone sings, which it turns out is a fair amount!) while doing a “how well do
I know the groom” quiz. I did pretty well but I feel like it was more of a ploy
to get me to divulge gossip! But certainly set a great mood for the night. We then
went into town, where the girls had planned a scavenger hunt. It was so
thoughtful and so well planned, I loved it! Alongside the scavenger hunt, they’d
also set some group challenges. Now, me being the competitive person I am,
decided to take it on alone. It certainly made for some funny experiences!
The next hen do was a “generic” one – the one that I planned
to include people from several social groups, not just work and family. This one
was also amazing! We went to London, starting in Dirty Martini, on to Adventure
Bar and then ending in Loop. In Dirty Martini, I gave the girls some activity
sheets, such as pick my something blue etc., and a guess the wedding details
game. Going through them the day after certainly made the hangover easier, they
were hilarious! We also did some Hen Do Dares in Loop Bar, which I’m sure were
funny, if I could remember them… I’m very thankful to the girls for looking
after me, especially Alex who trekked through London at 2am to find a subway
for me (McDonalds was closed), even though she knew full well that I would have
passed out by the time she got back! (Don’t worry, I ate it the next day, I never
waste food!) And then this weekend I’ve got my final hen do, a spa break with
my family, which I’m very excited for!
One of the other exciting things that have happened over the
past few weeks is I’ve had my dress fitting after the alterations! Obviously there
will be no photos here, but the experience was so phenomenal. I didn’t want to
voice it, but I was having serious doubts about my dress. It was someone else
who picked it out for me (I can’t remember if it was a family member or the
shop owner), and although I loved it when I tried it, it was a risk because I didn’t
know what it would look like in the right size (the store one was a size 8 so didn’t
even fit slightly!). I was excited for the next fitting, but it still didn’t look
good. Even the fitting after that, once the seamstress had pinned it I still didn’t
feel that it accentuated my shape the right way. I was starting to really panic
– you can’t return wedding dresses, and it wasn’t cheap! There was also the
issue that it was too late to order another dress, so the chances of me finding
the perfect one at this point were basically zero. So I just started to prepare
myself to learn to like it; I took a risk and maybe it didn’t pay off.
Then we went for the next fitting. I never anticipated that
my opinion could change so much, but my dress is PERFECT! There are several
factors that will have influenced this; I’d lost a decent amount of weight, I was
in a good mood and the seamstress had actually taken the dress in slightly more
than she intended, which massively worked in my favour because in my opinion
she hadn’t originally pinned it tight enough to show off my waist! The way it
fits now is really tight but in a secure way, it’s not uncomfortable at all and
there are no unflattering bulges. There is a tiny bit of room for me to lose
weight if I choose to, but absolutely zero room for weight gain, which is
amazing because it will keep me on track.
We’ve also sorted a lot of the smaller things. I’ve been
getting really stressed by the fact that there is still (what feels like) a lot
to do, even though I’ve been calming myself by reminding myself that if we did
nothing between now and the wedding, it would still be an amazing day. The
small things are what make our day individual, so are really important to us. Last
night, I had a massive organising session, ordered some stuff, paid for some of
the other stuff we’d booked, and we’re now at the stage where pretty much all
we need to do are the order of service and favours.
I’ve also been writing in a journal that my friend got me
for secret Santa (it’s so beautiful!). I’ve been using it as a 50 day countdown,
not writing in it every day but updating it whenever there is a change of mood,
we’ve sorted something or I need some time to offload any worries. I love
writing these blogs, but there are some things that I feel need to be private,
particularly at this stage! I feel like it’s been a really healthy way to
offload and keep my emotions in check (well, reasonably…) so that me and
Anthony don’t end up with tension between us.
I guess I’ll finish this blog the way I finish most of them,
by singing Anthony’s praises. As I’ve mentioned, the last month has been really
really stressful with planning, and both of us having full time jobs. It also
means that the limited time we have to plan the wedding together, we’re both knackered,
and so sometimes we get a little bit short with each other. A couple of nights
ago we got really bogged down in it all and were snapping at each other, so we
decided to just end the planning there for the night. But what was amazing was
that we came back together about 3 minutes later, gave each other a hug and
apologised, and then spent the evening cuddling. I know that a lot of
relationships fail in the engagement period, and I understand why, because it
is really tough! But I feel like we’re stronger than ever, and so much more in
love than ever. I haven’t had a single doubt or worry about actually being
married, all of my concerns have been about the day.
So overall, how am I feeling? Still pretty stressed, and
VERY emotional – I’ve cried the last 4 days on my way into work because I was
stuck in traffic and thinking about the wedding. Happy tears, I’d like to add! I’m
also now getting butterflies whenever I think about it, which I think is a
mixture of nerves and definitely excitement. I’m also ridiculously happy, I feel
like I’m glowing (not a pregnancy glow!). I just cannot wait for the big day to
be here and to finally be Anthony’s wife.
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